Also here is Free Links to assist and guide inexperienced counselors, also called Christian Carer’s Guidelines by Grantley Morris.
Info - About the first link:- http://net-burst.net/help/counsel.htm
You Can Comfort the Hurting
Everyone’s Guide to Basic Counseling
* Biblical
* Practical
* Essential
A First Aid Course For Emotions
People often find to their horror that the most agonizing aspect of a
painful trial is the well-meaning remarks and advice of fellow Christians.
But you can avoid the traps and be the Christlike comfort
to hurting people that you long to be.
Author’s Background
I enrolled in psychology at university, imagining it would help me in Christian ministry. I quickly discovered, however, that there is power in Jesus that behavioral science could never approach. I believe if ever I have been able to help anyone, it is because I put to one side my academic training and relied upon the Lord Jesus.
I am not opposed to psychology. I majored in the subject. I am disappointed, however, whenever I or any Christian fails to bring the power of God into a situation because we trust our training, or intuition, or experience or even our unaided ability to apply scriptural truth, instead of throwing ourselves upon the infinitely superior resources of Jesus Christ.
Continue to the website:- http://net-burst.net/help/counsel.htm
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Next link- at:
http://net-burst.net/help/comfort.htm
Christian Carer’s Guide
How to Comfort Hurting People
List of Practical Suggestions
(This significant webpage is also available in French, Afrikaans)
Tragically, Christians with the highest of motives are often blissfully unaware of the needless pain they inflict on the people they think they are helping. You, however, can avoid the pitfalls. This webpage summarizes how to move from the illusion that you are a blessing to really blessing people who need support.
* Be vitally aware that giving even simple advice is like handling a bomb: even experts are in danger of it blowing up in their face. As much as possible, leave it alone.
It is so important that you grasp this that if you have no already done so, I urge you to read Don’t Know What to Say? before proceeding.
In the eyes of the receiver, giving advice usually blasts you from the position of warm-hearted friend (the position from which you can offer maximum comfort) to that of cold superior. It can also greatly add to a hurting person’s pain.
If you are asked to give advice, see more.
http://net-burst.net/help/comfort.htm
Marriage Counseling Tips
By Ken Marlborough
A number of marriage counseling tips are available for strengthening marriage relationships. Experienced marriage counselors suggest these as a means of improving your relation with spouse. Marriage counseling tips are pieces of practical wisdom that come in handy to save your marriage.
Lack of communication is the main problem behind most family conflicts. Sometimes your spouse reacts violently and shouts at you. A useful tip in this situation is this - don't get over-emotional or raise your sound when talking to your spouse. Lowering your voice is the best way to decrease anger. It is a good idea to write a letter or e-mail to your spouse mentioning your questions, requests, and feelings. People who refuse to talk sometimes reply to a letter. You can send your spouse a favorite chocolate or other preferred item along with the letter. Another tip is to make a list of things that should be solved immediately. Check whether your spouse has the same opinion or not. Another constructive marriage counseling tip to save your marriage is - spend more time with your spouse and remember all the fun and enjoyment you had together.
Another useful tip is to look for something to arouse the interest of your spouse. You offer to take the children to a picnic so that your spouse can enjoy some private time to relax or to entertain friends. Yet another tip is to buy a beautiful greeting card and write a note asking if you can find a private time to talk to the spouse. People often have an easier time talking in a restaurant over dinner, because they won't yell and fight, but rather, will simply talk.
Other useful marriage tips are to show respect for each other at all times, discuss important issues together, and share responsibilities. Marriage counseling tips available abundantly on Web sites.
Marriage Counseling provides detailed information on Marriage Counseling, Christian Marriage Counseling, Family Marriage Counseling, Free Marriage Counseling and more. Marriage Counseling is affiliated with Marriage Problems.
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